How To Love: The Beginning

How to Love

I have met myself many times. There were years I did not bother looking in the mirror. The one thing that I always saw in myself when I did was the passion in my eyes. The same passion that was held inside throughout my entire life.

However, I spent most of my life being sad. I spent it in a state of darkness and holding onto control. When I would wake up, I would have rather stayed asleep. It took every ounce of my energy to maneuver through the day and by the time I went to sleep, nothing had caused even a slight smile or a conscious thought of delight.

The reason for all this was a simple explanation in which I spent years of my life trying to decipher. I thought it was the layers upon layers of self-doubt, or lack of external love. The answer was simple – I was afraid. I was afraid to feel anything other than sadness and gloomy days. I was not prepared to sit with myself and find a way to manage my feelings so they would be productive for me instead of working me into an even more deep pit.

I looked everywhere but inside for answers. I sought out everyone to try to fix me. I threw myself into destructive pastimes and spent time with those who refused to love me. I let emptiness rule my life and dictate my behaviors. I allowed those who did love me to fall out of my life because If someone got too close, they may see the fearful monster who was lurking inside me.

When you act from fear, there is no love. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I feared someone wouldn’t love me – so no one did. I feared that I wouldn’t be enough for society – so I wasn’t. When you cannot love yourself, all you do is attract what you believe. When you think negatively, not only do you attract more negative experiences externally, but you grab onto any other negative thought you can possibly muster and suddenly your life is an internal haunted house.

Bringing light into your life shouldn’t be difficult, but it is. We are bombarded by the idea that we must be perfect from a very young age. We watch our parents struggle, we watch movies where the only cast is thin, blonde, and never aging. There is nothing easy about living up to society’s standards. They were set by people who wanted power, and thanks to the media and big business, they have more power than ever.

We are now all working towards something that we don’t know what it is because the media has told us that when we reach a certain standard, we will be happy. But, is anyone, actually? Not really.

Money cannot make you happy. Objects cannot make you happy. Addictions cannot make you happy. Only love, and I’m talking unconditional self-love and unconditional love for everyone – is the answer to true joy.

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How To Get Through A Bad Day

Hello, my loves!

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Today, I’m going to be discussing something that we’ve all had – all of us! A bad day.

It always seems to happen when we went to sleep looking forward to something and we end up waking up in a flustered mood. This doesn’t need to prevent you from having a day you can at least tolerate. Instead of trying to fix everything, why not try a few simple methods to banish the blues and finish your day with positive vibes.

Be grateful. Whether or not you are having a bad day, you should always make time to be grateful. It literally takes three seconds to think of one thing you are grateful for and this will ease the pain of feeling low about your bad morning. If you have time, you could meditate on something you feel positive about in your life and this typically can sway your mood into a more loving and appreciative one.

Snuggle your pets. Honestly, to get through a bad day alone is difficult but if you need some extra love – snuggle up to your pets! Or your hubby. There is something very therapeutic about petting your animals, and that will release any tension you may have due to having an off day.

Stay Focused. Bad days happen, but that doesn’t mean you need to let it ruin your progress on a task you may be working on. You may want to just lay in bed but focusing on getting a project done can be a wonderful distraction. Pick up your to-do list and start checking things off and you will have no issue getting through your day.

Journal. One of the most rewarding practices you can do is journal. If you don’t want to verbalize your problems, try to write them down. It is a safe space to keep your thoughts organized and maintain a level of sanity when moments like these occur. Try to be as direct as possible and let what is really bothering you out. Sometimes bad days are not just bad days and they are the result of stress or being overworked.

Have Fun. Honestly, the easiest way to get your bad day back on track to a good one is to have some fun. Remember, life isn’t always going to be easy but you always get another day. Try to do some dancing, read an interesting book, go to a yoga class, get together with your friends, or anything you find exciting.

It’s always hard to have a bad day, but I hope some of these ideas can help you if you are having one!

Love,

Julie

Welcome To Julie Ann In Wonderland

Hello, my loves!

 

I am starting a new chapter of my blog. I decided I’m going to put more work into my posts and make a conscientious effort to post more regularly. If you have any suggestions for posts that you would like to see, let me know. Otherwise, I will be going back to posting about lifestyle, beauty, and wellness. 

I would like to create a warm community for anyone who is wanting to connect. So, feel free to message me at any time or leave comments. Thank you, and have a lovely rest of your day – whenever it is you read this!

Love,

Julie