Self-Care Essentials

Hello, lovelies!

Today I am going to be talking about a few self-care essentials, or a self-care starter kit for everyday use. I think the philosophy behind self-care is wonderful, and it allows us to take care of ourselves to allow us to have the capacity to take care of others. We are constantly concerned about other people’s care but rarely do we think of our own when people close to us are stressed out as well. I thought it would be a great idea to post some of the things I use for my own self-care. At the moment I am recovering from a very stressful month and have used certain techniques to bring myself back to a more relaxed state.

Here are a few essentials for a self-care routine:

A clean space. A clean space will allow you to not have to think about when you need to make the bed next or fold your laundry because it will already be done. Spend a while looking at your space, whether it just be your bedroom or your whole house. This will allow you to assess what needs to be done, what you need to change, and then change it. Our minds cannot relax if we are constantly looking at a mess around us or thinking about our next set of chores. The cleaning may not all get done in one round but you will find if you work on decluttering and cleaning, over time it will become second nature and you will feel the relief and know you are taking care of yourself and your things.

Aromatherapy. This method of relaxation has been around for ages, and it is one that will never cease to work (unless you are sensitive to smell). I have always loved candles not only for the scent but for the calming warmth they provide. Lighting a candle is like opening up a new environment because every candle is slightly different, and it could be summer and you could immediately be transported to a winter with a woodsy candle. It’s similar to perfumes, one day you may choose to wear a fragrance you wore over the autumn months during July and you remember the days of falling leaves just by smelling it on your skin. My suggestion to you is to spray your favorite perfume before you head out the door, whether it be on you or around you. This will be a great way to start off your day, especially if you are in a gloomy mood. Essential oils are also a great option as well.

Garden. This may be more of a seasonal suggestion but getting yourself out in nature and gardening is a wonderful way to soothe your anxiety or feeling of being overwhelmed. If I ever feel like I cannot handle being inside or simply feel like too many things are on my mind I take a break and go outside. I honestly will say I used to dislike pulling weeds or getting my hands dirty but now I feel it’s a blessing from nature to me. The fresh air, the slight sweaty feeling from getting out in the sun and being physical is worth doing. Even if you just want to go outside and pick a few weeds or sit in the grass and run your hands through it, it will help.

Tea. I do not know where I would be without tea, and I am not being dramatic. Tea has been a source of happiness for me over the last five years. It is almost the steps you take to make the tea that is the most rewarding for me. I love heating up the kettle, and pouring the hot water over the tea leaves, and the decision of what tea I want to drink just makes me so very happy – and don’t forget to pick out the mug! Honestly, it’s just a nice routine to have in the morning or in the evening or any time of day that helps you slow down a bit and take time for yourself which is what we all need. Plus it’s delicious! My favorite tea is peppermint at the moment but I also am partial to flavored green teas, and my mug of choice is a mermaid one from Pier One. What are your favorites?

Time. To be quite honest, the thing we need most to take care of ourselves is time to ourselves. We need time to digest what is happening, and let ourselves express our emotions even if it is just to ourselves. We don’t need to think for hours on end, but we do need to process and feel.

Some activities you might want to try for your self-care routine are:

taking a long bath
giving yourself a scalp massage
creative writing
art therapy
brain aerobics
crocheting or knitting
light exercise
preparing your favorite dish
talking to a friend
watching a comedy
planning in your planner
shopping at a local farmer’s market
eating a sweet treat
going to sleep early
sleeping in
going for a drive
playing with your pet
playing a video game
planning a trip
paint your nails
research something you’ve always wanted to know about

Anything that inspires you, or makes you feel happy and whole is perfect for self-care. You are beautiful, intelligent, caring, and perfect just the way you are! Remember that! Let me know in the comments what you do for yourself to show you love yourself. I am always eager to hear about other people’s self-care routines.

Until next time,

– Julie.


#GirlBoss Morning Routine Habits


Hi, my loves!

I am fully enthralled with the trend of girl bosses and hope it remains a trend until the end of time. We all come from different backgrounds and girl boss may mean many different things to different people but it, in the end, is a statement of power and knowing you can handle anything or any obstacle that comes to life. I am going to go over a few (basic) routine habits you can add to your current morning schedule that will bring health, happiness, and clarity to your day which in turn will allow you to focus on being a #GirlBoss.

  1. Start every day hydrated. Drink water, hydrate your body and don’t reach for the coffee right away. Studies show that drinking coffee on an empty stomach can make you more jittery, so take time to make a healthy breakfast, drink your water, and then grab a coffee.
  2. Yoga. Yoga is an excellent way to start your day because it will not only relax you but it will give you a light stretch of your muscles which will release any tension or strain from sleeping. This time can also be used to bring clarity to your mind and you can set an intention for the upcoming day.
  3. Look at your schedule/To-Do List. Take a few moments to look at your To-Do List and prioritize your day, make sure you do not overschedule yourself but do enough where you feel accomplished. If you have work or school that day, try to find time to schedule a leisure activity even if on a small scale because it will benefit you to have some downtime.
  4. Get ready and enjoy it. We often overlook this time of the day but it can be a calming ritual for us if we allow it. Putting on makeup or doing our hair, taking a shower, applying perfume, changing our clothes can be a time to reflect or even just watch inspiring Youtube videos and get into a positive mindset. If we see getting ready as a chore, it will be a chore and we won’t view it as a time to be alone and take care of ourselves.
  5. Tidy Up. This is something I feel should be done at all times but making your bed, putting away any clothes you chose not to wear or putting your products back should be a step you should add to your routine if you haven’t already. I love the feeling of coming home and not having to worry about a mess since I put items away as I am done with them.

These are just a few habits everyone should incorporate in their day no matter who they are because it will establish a base routine to add more positive habits.

Girl bosses and guy bosses know themselves, and they know themselves well. They encourage others like they encourage themselves. They are passionate and thoughtful and know how to make decisions. I truly admire all of the people out there who are able to work hard for what they want and have a fierce determination.

Have a lovely, positive evening!

  • Julie

How To Start Fresh & Make Changes

Hello, lovelies!

So today my blog post is going to be about starting fresh or making lifestyle changes when it seems like it is impossible. I have been in situations where it seems like the raincloud will not stop hovering over me and I felt like there was no escape from negativity in my life. I think it is important to remember we can start over and tomorrow, or even right now is a perfect time to do so. Below is an overview of what can help when you have to make a change in your life for the better. This is a repost of a blog I had done on a previous blog but I felt it was fitting for here today.

  • The first step in beginning again is truly spending time discovering what it is that is bothering you and be specific. If you feel, for example, you have been living an unhealthy lifestyle lately, ask yourself what it is that started you to decline on taking care of yourself. Go through and write down every thought you have that is in regards to your issue or issues and acknowledge it IS an issue. Sometimes we lie to ourselves and pretend it is not a huge deal that we are suffering. Anything from negative self-talk to binge drinking and everything in between can affect us more than we realize. The truth is if it is in any way making you uncomfortable, you need to address it but do not feel guilty about it. Write out your feelings, and any emotions you have, fill a notebook, fill two notebooks! This is the most important part of the process!
  • Now that you have written down and dissected the problem, ask yourself what you want to do about it. Is it something that you need to completely remove from your life or is it something you just need to modify? Write this down now. We often have habits we want to change but the task seems daunting. If you state what you specifically intend to change, it makes it easier.
  • Make a plan. You have now written down what is bothering you, you have written down everything that led up to the issue and what feelings you have surrounding it so the next step is to make a plan! So, if your unhealthy lifestyle is what you want to change – how are you going to do that? Make a list of things you can actually start doing, not things you just have good intentions for. This list can be short or a mile long, it doesn’t matter but you need to start somewhere. After this list is done, make another list – the “good intentions” list. These are things you want to get done eventually, but cannot do right away. You can work on these after you have made the original list a priority and a habit.
  • Focus. If you really want to change and start over fresh, it is not easy, and it takes time. There are not many people who are going to tell you they love breaking bad habits or making life changes but you will feel wonderful after you invest your time in making yourself happier and healthier. You are doing this for you and only you so make sure you are focusing on the WHO and WHY, the WHAT, WHERE, WHEN will fall into place.
  • Do it! I honestly feel if you take the time to process your feelings and actions they will be easier to mold into what you desire them to be. If it takes you longer do one of these steps, that isn’t an issue! This is all about you and I know you can do anything you set your mind to, so go ahead and get started on switching the light on in the darkness. You’ve got this, so go get it!

This may have been a more serious toned blog but I honestly believe in this method. The feelings behind our habits/actions/beliefs/attitudes are so important but rarely get addressed. I truly believe taking the time to analyze them and let them be known in their full capacity to ourselves is essential for personal growth.

Until next –

Much love,


5 Little Ways to Show Yourself Self-Love.

Hello, darlings,

So, I think it is evident that I am a strong encourager of self-love, self-care, and increasing your self-esteem through your actions. I thought I’d break it down into 5 ways to promote self-love on a daily basis.

  1. Be conscious of your inner voice. Often we entrap ourselves in a world of our own and in that world sometimes we have a very negative outlook on ourselves. Try to change this if this is the case simply by addressing the fact that you have these thoughts, and be aware of how they make you feel and try to adjust them into more positive, loving thoughts. It is perfectly okay if this does not feel comfortable right away and it will take practice, but you’ll get used to thinking more pleasant thoughts over time.
  2. Treat yourself. Honestly, we spend most of our time, efforts, and money on other people or things that are standard priorities. It is often that we forget that we deserve a little pick me up, or treat. Whether this is a candy bar, or a new scarf or purse, or even a luxury makeup product we absolutely deserve it and it will remind us we are worthy of it!
  3. Set priorities. Knowing your priorities in life is essential to self-love because it means when you make them a priority or accomplish your goals that you have taken time and invested in yourself. You need to feel like you have a purpose in life and your purpose needs to come from a source that makes you feel good and whole. So, simply make a list of these things and work on them. If most of your time is being put into other things that are not on this list, try to make a change.
  4. Take to the “bare necessities.” Remember to hydrate, eat wholesomely, get enough sleep. and stay active. These are the bare necessities which will absolutely help with self-love and improve self-esteem because no matter what is going on around you as long as you are taking care of these necessary items, you will have the energy and the health to focus on any other issues that may arise.
  5. Meditate and focus. So, the last bit of advice I can give for improving self-love and awareness is to meditate. This is so vital to improving your relationship with yourself because it gives you time to be with yourself! You can either choose to address your thoughts or simply let yourself be free and tranquil. It’s all up to you but no matter what, you need to spend time with yourself and allow yourself to get through your thoughts and emotions. It is essential!

This is a very small list of things, and I may continue this list in an upcoming post but please try to think of yourself this weekend. Make yourself your priority and you will blossom and bloom.

Much love,



Self-Care Routine for Fall

We all have moments where life is too stressful and we feel like there is no escaping it. These days can come on quickly and we need to soothe ourselves just as quickly because walking around and interacting with others when we are in distress can only cause more distress. My easiest way to combat these stressful times is to take time for myself as soon as I can and try to get back to a state of moderate stress instead of overwhelming stress. I do this with a self-care routine and I thought I’d share my self-care routine for fall.

In the colder months, it is easy to sit inside all day and not get the fresh air and reverie we need. Pushing yourself to get outside even if for ten minutes is going to bring light back to your day and you will feel refreshed and happier, I promise.

My next step in self-care is to tidy up your spac.e. We often neglect our rooms or apartments or houses if we are under large amounts of stress so now is the time to look after your home and give it a clean, even if it’s just picking your clothes off your bedroom floor. I personally like to clean my bathroom, kitchen, and bedroom and do things like changing the sheets on my bed, or just simply emptying and loading the dishwasher.

I like to journal. I journal in a few different ways but when I really need to feel better I journal all the things in my mind that I cannot seem to express with words out loud. It is sometimes so overwhelming to have too many thoughts in our heads at once so getting them out on paper allows some room to be filled with better, more positive thoughts.

One of the most calming things for me is to take care of my physical body, and with that, I like to do yoga for relaxation and for stretching. Sometimes I do a small workout to get my sweat and stress out. After I do some sort of physical activity I like to do a little pamper session with a shower where I spend time doing a scrub, hair mask, etc. I usually use warmer/sweeter scents for lotions and perfumes during the fall.

Tea is one of my favorite things to drink in my everyday routine but it’s even more relaxing when I’m focusing on self-care and have been relaxing prior. After enjoying some tea, I love to watch relaxing Youtube videos, like Charlotte Tilbury’s makeup tutorials (she has such a soothing voice) or ASMR videos before I go to bed.

Overall, just taking time to myself is the best way to practice self-care for me.

I hope you all have a relaxing evening!

  • Julie




Creating an Effective To-Do List

We all have a massive, on-going list in our heads or on paper that we hope to accomplish but when we are trying to accomplish so much we often end up accomplishing little to nothing due to feeling overwhelmed. So, how do we establish a method for effective to-do lists? Well, trial and error is a great way to see what works for us and what doesn’t but I am going to go through some tips on how to accomplish your to-do list.

So to start, it is often the best to do a brain dump, which is basically writing down every single thing that is currently in the front or even in the recesses of your mind. By writing down what is going through your thoughts, you are able to physically look at what goals you should focus on or what tasks you may need to accomplish to gain peace of mind.

Once you have a list of every possible thing, the next step is to prioritize. At this point, you can start scanning through your list and see what is least important and what is most important. If something is not a priority for you, you can choose to exempt it from the list or perhaps even if it is a feeling or a situation you can expand in a journal, etc.  If it is a priority to you, write it down as the first thing on your list and work your way down to the less important tasks or goals.

When writing your list, you will want to include as much information as possible. This means when you write a goal or task down, include how long it may take, what steps you need to achieve the goal and a deadline. These are key components to a healthy to-do list so that you do not have any surprises or anxiety when it comes to actually doing the task and you will be prepared for whatever comes. If you do have anxiety over it, feel free to journal about your specific goal or task and try to find out what it is that is causing the stress and even ask for help if it is needed.

Now that you have the list in front of you, try to keep your expectations realistic. Do not set deadlines that you know you will not accomplish. Do not schedule everything for one day even if the tasks seem minimal. It is better to set three tasks to accomplish a day than ten or twelve and in turn feel guilty for not getting them done.

I’ve noticed that consistently crossing or checking off items on my to-do list has made me feel like I have a purpose in my life even if some of the tasks are small or mundane routine items. In fact, sometimes if you’re struggling to mark things off you may want to start by writing things you know you already do or should be doing so that you can start seeing progress.

I am a firm believer of having an organized mind and writing your efforts down will help you with following your dreams and becoming exactly who you want to be! Even if it seems difficult, you have all the potential in the world and anything you dream can come true, I believe in you!

Hope this post helped anyone struggling with their goals/thoughts/daily tasks.

Wishing you a wonderful night, and a happy tomorrow!

  • Julie