Self-Care Essentials

Hello, lovelies!

Today I am going to be talking about a few self-care essentials, or a self-care starter kit for everyday use. I think the philosophy behind self-care is wonderful, and it allows us to take care of ourselves to allow us to have the capacity to take care of others. We are constantly concerned about other people’s care but rarely do we think of our own when people close to us are stressed out as well. I thought it would be a great idea to post some of the things I use for my own self-care. At the moment I am recovering from a very stressful month and have used certain techniques to bring myself back to a more relaxed state.

Here are a few essentials for a self-care routine:

A clean space. A clean space will allow you to not have to think about when you need to make the bed next or fold your laundry because it will already be done. Spend a while looking at your space, whether it just be your bedroom or your whole house. This will allow you to assess what needs to be done, what you need to change, and then change it. Our minds cannot relax if we are constantly looking at a mess around us or thinking about our next set of chores. The cleaning may not all get done in one round but you will find if you work on decluttering and cleaning, over time it will become second nature and you will feel the relief and know you are taking care of yourself and your things.

Aromatherapy. This method of relaxation has been around for ages, and it is one that will never cease to work (unless you are sensitive to smell). I have always loved candles not only for the scent but for the calming warmth they provide. Lighting a candle is like opening up a new environment because every candle is slightly different, and it could be summer and you could immediately be transported to a winter with a woodsy candle. It’s similar to perfumes, one day you may choose to wear a fragrance you wore over the autumn months during July and you remember the days of falling leaves just by smelling it on your skin. My suggestion to you is to spray your favorite perfume before you head out the door, whether it be on you or around you. This will be a great way to start off your day, especially if you are in a gloomy mood. Essential oils are also a great option as well.

Garden. This may be more of a seasonal suggestion but getting yourself out in nature and gardening is a wonderful way to soothe your anxiety or feeling of being overwhelmed. If I ever feel like I cannot handle being inside or simply feel like too many things are on my mind I take a break and go outside. I honestly will say I used to dislike pulling weeds or getting my hands dirty but now I feel it’s a blessing from nature to me. The fresh air, the slight sweaty feeling from getting out in the sun and being physical is worth doing. Even if you just want to go outside and pick a few weeds or sit in the grass and run your hands through it, it will help.

Tea. I do not know where I would be without tea, and I am not being dramatic. Tea has been a source of happiness for me over the last five years. It is almost the steps you take to make the tea that is the most rewarding for me. I love heating up the kettle, and pouring the hot water over the tea leaves, and the decision of what tea I want to drink just makes me so very happy – and don’t forget to pick out the mug! Honestly, it’s just a nice routine to have in the morning or in the evening or any time of day that helps you slow down a bit and take time for yourself which is what we all need. Plus it’s delicious! My favorite tea is peppermint at the moment but I also am partial to flavored green teas, and my mug of choice is a mermaid one from Pier One. What are your favorites?

Time. To be quite honest, the thing we need most to take care of ourselves is time to ourselves. We need time to digest what is happening, and let ourselves express our emotions even if it is just to ourselves. We don’t need to think for hours on end, but we do need to process and feel.

Some activities you might want to try for your self-care routine are:

taking a long bath
giving yourself a scalp massage
creative writing
art therapy
brain aerobics
crocheting or knitting
light exercise
preparing your favorite dish
talking to a friend
watching a comedy
planning in your planner
shopping at a local farmer’s market
eating a sweet treat
going to sleep early
sleeping in
going for a drive
playing with your pet
playing a video game
planning a trip
paint your nails
research something you’ve always wanted to know about

Anything that inspires you, or makes you feel happy and whole is perfect for self-care. You are beautiful, intelligent, caring, and perfect just the way you are! Remember that! Let me know in the comments what you do for yourself to show you love yourself. I am always eager to hear about other people’s self-care routines.

Until next time,

– Julie.


How To Start Fresh & Make Changes

Hello, lovelies!

So today my blog post is going to be about starting fresh or making lifestyle changes when it seems like it is impossible. I have been in situations where it seems like the raincloud will not stop hovering over me and I felt like there was no escape from negativity in my life. I think it is important to remember we can start over and tomorrow, or even right now is a perfect time to do so. Below is an overview of what can help when you have to make a change in your life for the better. This is a repost of a blog I had done on a previous blog but I felt it was fitting for here today.

  • The first step in beginning again is truly spending time discovering what it is that is bothering you and be specific. If you feel, for example, you have been living an unhealthy lifestyle lately, ask yourself what it is that started you to decline on taking care of yourself. Go through and write down every thought you have that is in regards to your issue or issues and acknowledge it IS an issue. Sometimes we lie to ourselves and pretend it is not a huge deal that we are suffering. Anything from negative self-talk to binge drinking and everything in between can affect us more than we realize. The truth is if it is in any way making you uncomfortable, you need to address it but do not feel guilty about it. Write out your feelings, and any emotions you have, fill a notebook, fill two notebooks! This is the most important part of the process!
  • Now that you have written down and dissected the problem, ask yourself what you want to do about it. Is it something that you need to completely remove from your life or is it something you just need to modify? Write this down now. We often have habits we want to change but the task seems daunting. If you state what you specifically intend to change, it makes it easier.
  • Make a plan. You have now written down what is bothering you, you have written down everything that led up to the issue and what feelings you have surrounding it so the next step is to make a plan! So, if your unhealthy lifestyle is what you want to change – how are you going to do that? Make a list of things you can actually start doing, not things you just have good intentions for. This list can be short or a mile long, it doesn’t matter but you need to start somewhere. After this list is done, make another list – the “good intentions” list. These are things you want to get done eventually, but cannot do right away. You can work on these after you have made the original list a priority and a habit.
  • Focus. If you really want to change and start over fresh, it is not easy, and it takes time. There are not many people who are going to tell you they love breaking bad habits or making life changes but you will feel wonderful after you invest your time in making yourself happier and healthier. You are doing this for you and only you so make sure you are focusing on the WHO and WHY, the WHAT, WHERE, WHEN will fall into place.
  • Do it! I honestly feel if you take the time to process your feelings and actions they will be easier to mold into what you desire them to be. If it takes you longer do one of these steps, that isn’t an issue! This is all about you and I know you can do anything you set your mind to, so go ahead and get started on switching the light on in the darkness. You’ve got this, so go get it!

This may have been a more serious toned blog but I honestly believe in this method. The feelings behind our habits/actions/beliefs/attitudes are so important but rarely get addressed. I truly believe taking the time to analyze them and let them be known in their full capacity to ourselves is essential for personal growth.

Until next –

Much love,


My Choices for Fall Perfumes


Happy Sunday, darlings!

If you couldn’t tell, Fall is my favorite season. It has the perfect weather, foods, and activities that certainly make it easy to love. Another reason I adore fall is that it means that richer and sweeter scents are on the market. In this post, I will talk about four of my favorite fall time perfumes or body sprays that I have been using this season so far.

Zum Mist: with Frankincense & Myrrh.  I am a huge fan of essential oils so when I saw this at Target I had to grab it. I am very fond of the smell of Frankincense and together with Myrrh, it is exactly as it is described: dreamy and woodsy. It is a scent which will last almost all day, and can also be used as a room spray. This scent is difficult to describe because it is purely two essential oils mixed together but I urge you to smell this one if you see it in store.

Viktor & Rolf: Flower Bomb. Now, this is a perfume, which makes it a lot more fragrant and has a longer lasting power. Flower bomb is a warm floral scent is how I would personally describe it. According to their website, it is described as a feminine, fresh, floral. I love this for the fall because it is so heavy and continues to last throughout the day but it is not potent or nauseating as some can be.

Bath&Body: Salted Caramel Apricot. Salted caramel apricot is the epitome of fall scents. This is a warm, fuzzy, sweet scent which reminds me of fall treats baking in the oven. If they do not have this seasonal scent next year I will be super disappointed because this particular fragrance has made me feel warm and cozy every time I put it on. The smell is exactly what it sounds like, warm caramel with an apricot underlying scent. Run to Bath & Body,  you won’t regret it!

Calvin Klein: CK2. CK2 is a different type of fragrance. The best way I can describe it is peppery yet fresh. It is a gender neutral fragrance which I totally believe is true. I honestly think it leans more on the masculine side of fragrance but that may just be because of my other personal choices in fragrance. According to the website, this is a fresh, warm, and electric type of fragrance. This fragrance will definitely get you compliments! It is very unique and I am glad it is part of my collection.

It was truly hard to pick my favorite fall time scents but these were the few I have been reaching for lately!

Leave a comment and tell me your favorite fall fragrance! I’d love that!


Your Space, Your Sanctuary.


Hello, my dears!

For today’s post, I will be writing about your space/bedroom/apartment/home and ways you can help make it a more calming and secure environment for you to come into when you’re stressed or have had a long day.

For myself, when my space is not clean or at least in some sort of order, I tend to have anxiety. I know this is common for many of us so that is my first suggestion: clean up. When we see our clothes on the floor, or there are dishes still out from a meal we previously had it can easily weigh on our thoughts because we cannot focus on anything but the mess. So, my suggestion is to try to put things away as you use them or are done with them. Try to put your clothes back on the hanger if you are not happy with your outfit, put dishes in the dishwasher or wash them immediately following your meal. It will save you so much time! If you can’t get in this habit, set a time aside each day to tidy your space so you do not need to worry about a giant mess at the end of the week.

Add essential oils to your room or living space. Essential oils can be used to calm, awaken, or even bring an inner peace to us. Essential oils can be used through a diffuser or even with a spray form. You can create your own blends or buy some in the store. I highly suggest them for anyone who does yoga or meditates as well.

Try fairy lights to brighten up a room or to create an atmosphere you want to be in. Fairy lights are an inexpensive treat which can be bought all year round and in many different colors or vibrancies. If you don’t like this idea, try anything that may warm up your space like candles(even battery operated ones) to make you feel cozy.

Decorate, exactly how you want. Make your room a vintage hideaway or a tropical paradise, or even an eclectic wonderland! It doesn’t matter what you do with your room but make it a place you want to be and know you can always feel safe and secure in. We have very little control over what goes on outside our walls but we all deserve a small space to call our own.

Decide what you allow in your space, and what you don’t allow. As in, do you want to allow yourself to feel negative or will you leave those thoughts at the door? Try using this as a new way to let things go. When you walk in your room — can you let go for a while and just focus on the good things in your life? It may be hard at first but work at it and you will find your life slowly flowing into harmony. We all need to start letting go of negativity and doubt and it may start with your sanctuary.

I hope this helped, even a little. I think we forget that our space doesn’t need to be perfect or out of a home and garden magazine, it just needs to allow us to feel safe, and when we are in it we need to take the time to heal ourselves.

All well wishes,